> so a lot of the time, people use Tailscale just for SSH. I personally feel the impact is still quite big, especially since SSH leads directly to control of the server

I too use ssh with Tailscale, but as I understand things, this is only impact "tailscale ssh", which is different from doing "ssh over tailscale" (over tailnet), at least how I understand other comments here, someone please correct me if I'm wrong.